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Thanksgiving Wrap-Up

thanksgivingThe kids & I spent Thanksgiving with my family this year.  We went to my uncle’s  home in Indiana & had a great time.  My mom & Uncle Bob cooked up quite the feast!!

Adam has been battling kidney stones, so he decided it would be best to stay home.  The last thing you want to do is be “up” when you’re hurting.  I’ve heard that kidney stones are worse than labor – poor guy!!  He felt a lot better today, so hopefully the stone will pass soon.

Since Adam missed out on turkey dinner, I made him a belated Thanksgiving dinner last night.  I prepared my very first turkey.  I have to say…pulling out the bird’s innards & neck was completely disgusting & goes to show you how far I’ll go for my man!  The dinner was supposed to be a surprise, but when the turkey aroma began filling the house, Adam became suspicious.  I made all his favorite sides – we had WAY too much food for just the five of us.

We also decked the house out with our Christmas decorations.  I put up four trees this weekend!  We have our main tree in our living room & the kids each have a tree for their bedroom.  Suddenly, they’re looking forward to bedtime.  They love falling asleep looking at the colorful lights.  I’m almost finished decorating – I just have to put out a few more knick knacks.

I hope you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving too!!

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We watched a video in church that really struck a chord in me.  So many times, I find that I thank God for all He is doing in my life, but never really thanking Him for WHO He is.  Here’s the main part of the video’s message.  It touched my heart…maybe it’ll touch yours too.

What if we did something different this year?

New lenses just for a minute…

What if we stopped equating our blessings with our circumstances?

That might just bear repeating…

What if we stopped defining our blessings in terms of our circumstances and began to consider the fact that the real blessing in our lives is that we have a God who is with us no matter what.

It would mean that we’d be thankful that He never leaves us & never forsakes us – ever.

It would mean that we’d be grateful for worshipping a God who is chasing us and inviting us to chase Him.

It would mean that we would thank the healer in the middle of the hurt.

It would mean that we would express gratitude not in response to our circumstances, but in response to He is.

Period

Gratitude – it’s when we realize that we’re not entitled to anything.

Gratitude – not for our circumstances, but for God’s involvement in the middle of them.

So what if this year was different?

Gratitude for God’s presence alone…that might just change everything.

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Happy Thanksgiving!!

Happy Thanksgiving!!

thankful1When I think about all I have to be thankful for, I am truly overwhelmed.  My husband, my children, our family, friends, health, home, church, jobs, food – I could go on & on!  The prayer that is on my heart this morning is inspired by our latest series at church…”A Life on Loan.”

Lord, thank you for everything.  For all the joy, laughter & love in my life – it does my soul wonders.  For all the trials – I know you are refining me to make me more like You.  For dying for me, so I may one day share eternity with You – even though I don’t deserve it.  Help me to be a good steward with all the things You have loaned me in this life.  And may I live in such a way, to bring honor to Your Name.  Amen.

I hope you have a wonderful day.  Love to you all!!

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animal rescue

I got this email recently…got time for a “click?”

doggie3Hi all you animal lovers. This is pretty simple…

The Animal Rescue Site is having trouble getting enough people to click on it daily to meet their quota of getting free food donated every day to abused and neglected animals.

It takes less than a minute (How about 20 seconds) to go to their site and click on the purple box ‘fund food for animals’ for free. This doesn’t cost you a thing. Their corporate sponsors/advertisers use the number of daily visits to donate food to abandoned/neglected animal in exchange for advertising.

Here’s the web site!

http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/

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such a good boy

jasmineGrady loves picture books.

I’ll point at a picture & he’ll gleefully yell out what it is.

He’s got down the basics…apple, ball, truck, baby, strawberry (his favorite!).

It’s funny to hear him say the ones he doesn’t know.  He just goes “naaa.”

Last night, he was looking through one of Ava’s Disney Princess coloring books.

He came running over, pointed to this picture of Princess Jasmine & said,

“Ma Ma!”

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saying the hard thing…a follow up

So, you took the risk & said the hard thing to a friend or loved one.  They didn’t take it too well & now you have a strained relationship.

Now what?

I got an email the other day from a person where the above scenario happened & they asked:

So, I guess my question is what happens next or what’s the next step?  I’m really becoming guarded on sharing anything or saying the hard thing.

I shared a few of my thoughts in a response by email & asked their permission to post their question.  I bet this has happened before to other people & I’m hoping we’ll be able to grow with each other.

First of all, as scary as saying the hard thing can be, I wouldn’t let your fear deter you from speaking what’s right.  Check your motives. Remember, saying the hard thing comes from an outpouring of love, not from a desire to control or manipulate.  Pray about it & if you feel convicted to share what’s on your heart, then follow through.

If you’re debating on saying the “hard thing,” I’d encourage you to consider a few circumstances:

Was it a one time occurance?

We all slip up from time to time & say things we shouldn’t have or do things against our better judgment.  If you think the person probably had a bad moment then I would encourage you to extend some grace there & let it go.

However, if you notice a pattern of behavior that is harmful or hurtful to themselves or others, then you’re going to need to go down that road with them.

Did they ask your opinion?

If they did, then you need to be honest with them.  If they are asking you in the first place then there is a level of trust & respect that you should honor.  It can be tempting to just tell someone what they want to hear.  I’ve done this before & I regret some of the times I did.  If you’re just responding so they’ll feel good about themselves then you really haven’t helped them.  In fact, you probably only validated or justified (in their eyes) their harmful behavior.

If you said the hard thing & now have a broken relationship, then I’d encourage you to reach out.  If you were willing to take the chance to say it in the first place, then the relationship should be worth it.

Ask them was it what you said or how you said it.

If it was what you said, then talk with them more.  Do they disagree with you?  If yes, then use examples to explain the behavior you’ve noticed.  Be specific.  But be gentle.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

I shared before that I used to get defensive (and still do sometimes) when I hear the hard thing.  It’s hard!  There is a part of me that is ashamed when someone else points out something ugly about me that deep down I knew about myself.  It’s embarrassing when you realize that someone else sees it too.

So, give them a little time & a little space.  You reached out.  They may need to do some wrestling with themselves about what you said.

If it was how you said it, then let them explain their position & encourage them to share their feelings.  Be sure to do a lot of listening & less talking here.  We take things wrong all the time & sometimes our message gets lost in translation.  You may have said the hard thing as kindly as you could & they may tell you, you sounded like a self-righteous know-it-all.  I wouldn’t advise getting all tangled up with this.  There is no point in getting into an argument over how a person should feel.  Assure them that you love them.  That’s why you said the hard thing in the first place! Remind them of the lovable things about them.  Hopefully, you’ll be able to restore your relationship.

“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” Proverbs 17:17

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back to the doctor

Grady & I are headed to the doctor’s office this afternoon.

Why???

Because last Thursday we spent the entire afternoon in the ER while he got stitches in his leg.  I don’t get.  I don’t get it.  I don’t get it. I can’t figure out if he’s just incredibly accident prone, clumsy, oblivious or what.  He is constantly running into things!  Adam has now nicknamed our boy “Bruiser.”

(which is better than Scooter.  Have I told you the Scooter story yet? 😉 )

Anyway…

I took off last Thursday, so I could get all my errands done for the boys’ birthday party.  I was getting ready in our bedroom while Grady was playing in the sitting room attached to our bedroom.  All of a sudden, he came running over crying, “oww-eeee!  oww-eee!”  I picked him up & when I looked down there was blood all over the floor.  I discovered a cut on his shin that was split wide open.  Ava & Garrett were already at school & Adam was in a meeting, so it was just us.  I knew there was no way I could pull the wound together with a bandaid.  So, I cut up some rags to tie around his leg in hopes of controlling the bleeding & we made our way to the hospital.

On the way, I tried calling Adam.  I knew we wouldn’t be home in time to get Garrett off the bus, so I needed him to come home.  We have a rule where if it’s an emergency, I’m supposed to call & then text so he know’s to interrupt his meeting.  Well, he got notification of my calls, but the text didn’t go through right away.  In fact, he joked with his clients that he knows it’s only serious when I text.  No sooner had he said that when my text came through & he called right away.

We were in the ER for a few hours & Grady howled the entire time.  I swear, he must have some vocal cords of steel because I’m floored he didn’t go hoarse.  And he’s strong!  It took four of us to told him down while the doctor stitched his leg – and he was papoosed.  He screamed & writhed every time she inserted the hook.  She only used a topical to numb him instead of an actual injection.  Looking back, I wish I would have questioned her & asked if there was something more they could do to try to settle him down.  The stitching went fairly quickly though & thankfully, he only needed 6 stitches.

I will never get used to hearing my kids cry in pain.  I had to literally lay over Grady to hold him down when they cleaned his wound, took x-rays & stitched him up.  And he doesn’t understand, you know?  He’s probably wondering why I am holding him down instead of picking him up & holding him close.  It doesn’t matter how much I try to soothe him with my voice; when he is hurting nothing helps.  And it’s so frustrating when I know I can’t help my hurting child.  I feel so powerless in those situations & just wish I could do something more to make them feel better.

So, today he gets his stitches removed.

How about it Grady?  Let’s see if we can make it through the rest of the year accident free!

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